I want to help you not just survive, but THRIVE in these crazy times. I’m sending you this daily dose of inspiration, because if we set our compass right, we can sail through this!
“It’s our choices that show what we truly are, much more than our abilities” – JK Rowling
Tip # 46: Press the Reset Button
Create a RESET BUTTON for yourself. It might be an actual button you press or maybe it’s a stone in your pocket to hold, drinking a glass of water, washing your face, going for a run, a few rounds of deep breathing, or even just placing your hand on your heart. Pressing the RESET BUTTON is a physical thing you do – it is a chance to stop in your tracks, reassess the choices you are making and start fresh.
The process of Pressing the Reset Button…
- You separate from the emotions and actions you are in the middle of •You choose not to focus on why you are in this state, but on letting it go – don’t get caught up with blame or guilt.
- You make a choice about how you want to be and behave – you choose to be in control of what you do next.
- You take a moment to cultivate the emotional state you are choosing (don’t just think ‘i will be excited about this’ but really take time to generate that feeling inside you, soak it in)
- You choose what your next action will be, then starting fresh, you dive back into life. This series of 50 tips has been helping you to build the mental strength to be able to deliberately shift your attention, your thoughts and your choices. This tip is putting that ability into action.
You can’t control everything – but you are not powerless – you can always choose what you do next and whether you focus your attention on the problem or the solution. When you become aware that you are not aligned with your intentions (finding yourself being frantic, overwhelmed, anxious or reactive) – you press the reset button! It is choosing to realign with your best intentions.
Hardwiring Happiness, Rick Hanson PhD
Life isn’t easy, and having a brain wired to take in the bad and ignore the good makes us worried, irritated, and stressed, instead of confident, secure, and happy. But each day is filled with opportunities to build inner strengths and Dr. Rick Hanson, an acclaimed clinical psychologist, shows what you can do to override the brain’s default pessimism.